Personal and Professional Stories of A Working Human
…who are sex workers. Feminism isn’t about putting down other women. Just FYI for those fucking assholes out there saying shit like “don’t say “whore” but that bitch is a whore and sex workers are all sluts, but don’t use the word “slut” towards us non-sex workers.” Obviously that’s not a direct quote. That’s me reading into some “ews” and “gross”es a bit. I would link to what I’m referencing here but really it’s either clear or it’s vague and it’s true for a lot of people so it doesn’t need to be specific.
Generally if you want to make the point that women are good, patriarchy is bad, and all of that nice stuff, you don’t go around saying what women do is “gross” or “bad” or literally talking down to us, because we are sex workers. Or being sarcastic about our work. Do you know what I’m saying here? Saying, Sex “Work”, or Sex Work* *misogyny. Or otherwise generally sarcastically denying our agency, basically you are being sexist. Oh shit, did you forget that I’m a fucking person too while trying to save me? Because you clearly fucking did.
I am specifically talking about people “ew”ing and such, at a chart about how much sex workers (on average) charge for certain services. “Oh ew they charge differently for butt sex?!”. Yeah, that sort of thing. Hmmmm…..who else charges differently for different services….except maybe every single service industry worker ever. I know, sex is gross and such, but maybe if you don’t want it, don’t worry about it. You don’t have to pay for sex from me, or any of my sex worker friends.
I don’t want to be in a fight with anyone. I hate being in fights. I hate being yelled at even by assholes, I find it difficult to deal with emotionally. You might call me a wimp or whatever you want but yeah, I can’t handle emotional abuse. However I also can’t just sit back watching this bullshit and pretend like it’s ok.
Shit, I’m sorry that sex workers are some sort of issue that you have to deal with. Apparently this is a really big problem for you; our jobs and our lives are really gross and you have to make sure that we know how much saving we need because we are just so unaware. I’m also sorry that sex seems to be such a huge fucking issue, our sex not yours, that you have to be grossed out by people doing it. I mean seriously, if people paying more for different sexual services bothers you…well actually don’t think about it. I don’t want you thinking about my sexual services if you are going to think about it with your goggles of bullshit. I’d rather you just not even worry how much I charge for my services.